The Abortion Ban in Alabama

Alabama's Abortion Ban

Let me start off by saying: no one likes or enjoys abortion. The decision is rarely made lightly. Options are weighed. Whether you are pro-choice or pro-life (especially if you are pro-life), work towards appropriate preventative care measures. Get out there and take action. Help create beneficial preventative measures like comprehensive education on sex and reproductive health, increased access to contraception, allow better understanding of our bodies, be open and honest with children on sex and their bodies. Making things illegal has never stopped things from happening (i.e. drunk driving, sexual assault, robbery occurs every day). Instead, ensure we are all taking action for prevention to help limit and lower the amount of abortions happening. Get to the source. Shaming women helps nothing. People can debate about whether or not a fetus is more than a clump of cells but that helps nothing.

Our foster care systems are filled with children. Social workers are over-worked and underpaid. Mental health is increasingly depleting. Children are growing up without a nuclear family. Children are being abused. Parents are struggling financially while the cost of living increases. Daycare costs are extremely expensive. Birth changes you physically and mentally. Postpartum depression is hardly taken care of in the way it needs to. Violence occurs daily. Families have to rely on welfare support. How can we begin to combat all of that? Will infanticide and suicide rates increase when people are forced into parenthood? Will poverty rates rise? Will mental health decrease? Will death rates increase? Have the implications and impacts been looked into and all things considered?

The best thing we can begin to work towards and agree on is prevention to reduce unintended pregnancies and supporting the ones who need our support. According to Vox, “Colorado, for example, provided birth control for little or no cost to low-income women across the state. "Between 2009 and 2013, it saw the state’s teen pregnancy rate decline by more than 40 percent— the sharpest drop in the country over that time period.”

Abortions will continue, yet they will be more dangerous. Consider abortions throughout American History. According to the World Health Organization, aside from death and disability, $553 million was spent treating “serious consequence of unsafe abortions” and an additional $375 million would be “required to meet the unmet need for treatment of complications of unsafe abortions.”

What is the Abortion Ban?

Currently, abortions are still legal and safe in Alabama. The bill won’t take affect for at least six months. However, the bill does not allow any exceptions for anyone suffering with an incest or rape situation and puts doctors at risk of prison for 99 years. The only exception is if the mother’s life is in jeopardy. It’s the most restrictive bill in the country.

The Goal

Currently, the Supreme Court is majority conservative. The Alabama bill’s intention is to go in front of the Supreme Court in order to challenge Roe v. Wade and hopefully overturn it. Alabama State Representative Terry Collins said, “This bill is about challenging Roe v. Wade and protecting the lives of the unborn, because an unborn baby is a person who deserves love and protection.”

What Can Be Done?

Donate.
Volunteer.
Get local.
Do research.
Focus on prevention.

The Best Natural & Cheap Product Every Curly Girl Needs

The Best Natural & Cheap Product Every Curly Girl Needs

Throwing flaxseed into our smoothies, oatmeal, yogurt bowls, baked goods, anything – is a staple in our house. It’s no secret they are rich in vitamins, fatty acids, omega-3s, and minerals. But they also work as an incredible curl enhancer.

Growing up, no one around me had curly hair aside from my father. As a pre-teen, I was left fumbling around with frizzy hair, styles and cuts made for girls with straight hair, products that were never meant for my hair type. My sister, her hair pin-straight – styled and cut correctly, would try to help me but to no avail. I never had the opportunity to learn how to take care of my curls correctly so I always felt uncomfortable. The ones surrounding me had hands only meant for straight hair and they couldn’t see the world through my spiral lens.

Entering middle school, I wanted to shed my curly hair so I started straightening it. It became years of this, weaving in and out of curly and straight hair, I finally said enough is enough.

I embraced my curls entirely.

Curly hair is like having to become a chemist. Certain products are better than others, certain ingredients will be a hit or miss. It’s a huge learning process to see what works and what doesn’t. Following the curly girl method has been the best thing for my hair.

I recently made this homemade flaxseed gel and I’m obsessed.

The Best Natural & Cheap Product Every Curly Girl Needs
The Best Natural & Cheap Product Every Curly Girl Needs

Bouncy & soft, low-frizz, low-waste, and increased volume? My kind of product.

All you need:

  • 4 tablespoon flaxseed

  • 1 cup water

What to do:

  1. Pour water & flaxseed in a pan on the stove. Bring it to a boil.

  2. Once it starts boiling, lower the heat.

  3. Begin stirring for 3-4 minutes on low heat. You want an egg-white consistency.

  4. Once it’s finished, let it cool for about 10 minutes. You can attempt to put it into a very fine strainer over a bowl to allow some of the gel to come out. It didn’t work for me but it may work for you.

  5. Once cooled, grab nylon pantyhose or a cheese cloth. If you’re using a nylon pantyhose, stretch it over a big measuring cup. Scoop the mixture into it, take off the nylon, and start squeezing it into a bowl/container/etc. It feels and looks strange but it’ll be worth it. If you use a container with a big enough opening, you can get as messy as you want.

  6. Squeeze it all out and you’re done! Store it in the fridge until you’re reading to use it.

Thrifting Tips for Sustainable Style & Saying No to Fast Fashion

Thrifting Tips for Sustainable Style & Saying No to Fast Fashion

Thumbing through the Target racks, for a third time in a month, I’m passing through the same repetitive floral and ruffled crop tops with slightly different styles. T-shirts with Blondie on them and the words “coffee addict” in bold letters. One after the other. Huffing a little, I leave. Frustrated, disappointed, and feeling a little dejected.

Sitting in my car, I’m dissecting my emotions and I come to the realization that no matter how hard I’ll try, I hate consumerism. Or I should say – unnecessary consumerism and fast-fashion brands. Materialism. The cultural trait that sweeps our US nation. When I was younger, I began talking out about environmental issues, about materialism, quoting Fight Club at every turn, getting my clothes secondhand. I believed in intentional living then and I believe in it now.

For a while, I got swept into the Target craze. Part of the mainstream mother identity (like wine-drinking) and I’ve finally shedded it. I don’t want to buy their woven wall decor or their $5 embroidery hoops. I want to support ethical + local crafters. I don’t want $20 crop tops that I’ll realize I hate in a couple months. I want thoughtful, I want intentional, I want to sift through pieces people no longer wanted.

I thought I wanted to be an influencer like some of the top IGers but it always felt unnatural for me. I want to be an encourager. I want to market natural + intentional living. Both as a mother and as an individual. It’s part of the reason I’m drawn to psychology. Advocating for self-sufficiency, financial freedom, self-growth, mental + physical wellness, sustainability, intentional + ethical living, poetry – that’s who I am. That’s what I work on with myself everyday and that’s what I want to share with others.

2019 is the year I step into my skin fully, poetically, with resilience. Which brings me to a lovely little guide for thrifting and to help you feel more confident in second-hand shopping.

Reasons to Thrift

beneficial for the environment

The average American throws out 81 pounds of clothing each year. Out of 95% of textiles that can be recycled, 85% won’t be. Landfills received 10.5 million tons in the US and EU alone generates 2 million tons. 42 countries in Africa, Asia, and South America has had to restrict or ban the import of second-hand clothing. We need to continue pressuring fast fashion corporations to be more thoughtful in their production but choosing second-hand gives these clothes a new life while making a small little dent into your own carbon footprint. Watch the documentary True Cost.

fashion creativity

Thrift stores have a wide variety of clothing styles so you aren’t stuck in one box. You get to find tons of different pieces and style them in fresh, new ways.

show-off fabulous finds

I found those Free People bell-bottom denims at Goodwill for $15 when they’re usually 100-something. I was raving about them for weeks and I get such great compliments on them. It’s a great ego-booster on days I may be feeling down.

Thrifting Tips

Know Thyself

Understand your style. I personally want a capsule wardrobe that will be versatile and timeless with some vintage pieces thrown in. Along with a specific color palette (blacks, whites, creams, mustard yellows, browns, etc).

Create a Wardrobe Vision Board

Think of pieces that can be versatile and will mix well with other pieces you have in your closet. Keep track of what you need and what you’re looking for. If you don’t have something in mind, chances are you’ll be overwhelmed or just buy pieces you don’t completely love.

Online Research

If you are big into hiking, do some research on brands and fabrics that will withstand various weather. If you like vintage pieces, look up vintage brands and styles that you may like. If you want recycled fabric, look up brands that have used recycled fabrics. Whatever it is, have an idea of what you want in your clothes.

Keep a budget

Budgets help keep us in line. It keeps us mindful. Stick to the budget you set and you’ll ensure you only buy what you truly love.

Take a Friend

Shopping is always fun when you’re with someone. Bringing someone with you can help generate second opinions and solidify your buying decisions.

Go on the Weekday

Stores are filled on the weekends with people perusing racks. To feel less overwhelmed, utilize any weekday time you can so you won’t feel rushed.

Try Again

Never feel an obligation to go to the same thrift store over and over again if it’s not working for you. Don’t waste your time, find one you love. I do recommend trying a couple times at least. Thrifting is a lot of hit and miss, even in your favorite stores. So sometimes we have to give it a couple chances before we completely say no to a place.

Check Clothes

There’s nothing worse than buying an article of clothing, bringing it home, and finding a stain on it or a rip in the armpit. Inspect it carefully while you’re there. If it’s an easy fix, buy it but if you don’t have the time and know you won’t be able to mend it, leave it at the store for someone who will.

In-Person

  1. Look for local thrift stores. Salvation Army & Goodwill are some choices but you can also find consignment shops.

  2. Look outside your area too and don’t mind a little travel to the next couple towns over. Going to a different area can provide different styles that are donated.

  3. In warmer weather, look for garage sales and estate sales. I don’t have a lot of luck with these but it may be different for what you’re in search of.

  4. Join your local Buy Nothing group or check out freecycle. There can be some great, unsuspecting finds when you’re least expecting it.

Online

There are some online secondhand shopping options.

  1. Ebay

  2. Poshmark (use my code: wolfmyths to save $5)

  3. Etsy

  4. Depop

  5. Slowre (purely natural + ethical second-hand!)

  6. ThredUp.

  7. Instagram has also become a great option for secondhand clothes, especially vintage pieces.

Happy thrifting!